Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas? But…it’s January 4!

Yep! And we’re still in the Christmas season. Epiphany isn’t until Monday, and my decorations are still up. It won’t take long to take them down, as I’ve simplified things over the years, but they probably won’t go back into the boxes until next weekend.

It was a nice Christmas, all things considered. The last few years were pretty lousy – three years ago, pop died. Two years ago, I broke my ankle and spent Christmas recovering from surgery (I won’t say it was “shattered” as my very talented orthopedic surgeon managed to find all the pieces of bone and reassemble them with some heavy-duty hardware), and last year my best friend and music partner died suddenly right before Christmas. This year, we lost mom – which should have made it another crappy Christmas.

But oddly – it wasn’t. Maybe it was because we all breathed a collective sigh of relief that she and pop were together again. Maybe it was because she wasn’t suffering any more. Maybe it was because we all realized that, as hard as it was, it could have been a lot worse.

And maybe – just maybe – this Christmas was a gift from the Holy Spirit.

Sure, we got a little weepy. We missed some people terribly. Mom had left some instructions for some personal gifts, which were given out. I’d like to think that mom was able to see everyone’s reactions. I do know I felt her presence – and pop’s, and Bubba’s – very strongly. Does it take the place of their being there “in the flesh?” Of course not. But because of Christmas – and Easter – we know we will be with them again. We know they are wrapped in love and peace.

And of course, there were some laughs: My brother continued the tradition of the rubber chickens. Once again, his ceiling (and it’s a tall one) is covered with little rubber chickens. It started a few years ago when he ordered a pack of small rubber chickens (you shoot them like rubber bands) from “slamazon” (as my friend Cathy J calls that big online retailer), intending for us to shoot them at one another like the overgrown kids we all are.

I’m pretty sure it was Bubba who first aimed a chicken at the ceiling. Or maybe Harris. Hey! They stick! And so a new holiday tradition was born.

Can you hear it? “Oh, we love to decorate the tree as a family on Christmas eve after we go to church, and then after Christmas dinner we go caroling! What do you do, Brenda?” “Oh, we crank up the air conditioning, build a fire in the fireplace, drink champagne and shoot rubber chickens at each other and at the ceiling.” Yep, that’s my family.

And among all of this craziness is family, love, and the peace of the Holy Spirit. I realize a lot of people struggle with Christmas. I have for years – so did mom; she said that she was reminded of all those she loved who had left this life. I do think she had a better Christmas this year, as did pop, Bubba, and all of our loved ones on the other side. #84 in the Hymnal 1982 sums it up beautifully:

May the peace of the Holy Spirit and the gift of the Incarnation be with you throughout the year. And don’t be afraid to say it: Merry Christmas!

Oh Happy Day!

Oh happy day! Tomorrow, one of my dearest friends is getting married. No, not a daughter or granddaughter of a friend, but Charlotte herself. I am filled with joy for her and Paul, and I am not alone in this feeling; everyone in their circle(s) feels the same.

This isn’t a first marriage for either of them. It’s one of those wonderful love stories, where two people who’d been married in the past (and weren’t even looking for a relationship) wound up falling in love. They grew close while working together for their church. While you’d think a “second marriage” would be small and quiet, I doubt if there will be a spare seat (or a dry eye) tomorrow in the First Methodist Church, and I wonder if the walls will be able to hold that much love and joy. We all want to share this happiness with them, and wish them well in this sacred space.

Charlotte asked me to sing, and of course I agreed. It’s a gift that I can give, and I am honored and happy to do something for this sacred day. I’m not alone – friends Cathy and Kerry have made magnificent new curtains and sheers for the Fellowship Hall (where the reception will be). Kerry will be playing the organ for the service. Other friends created and furnished invitations. Everyone wants to do something for the happy couple (in addition to squealing with delight and jumping up and down, which is what I did when Charlotte told me the happy news)!

We’re always happy for couples that wed, but there’s something extra special about this kind of situation. It’s unexpected, and it reminds us that God can surprise us with love in the most unexpected ways. But isn’t that a God-thing? Whether a marriage, or a new friend, or a kindness done by a stranger, or the companionship of a pet, God slips love into our lives when we least expect it. It makes me wonder if we don’t often tend to guard our hearts, and it takes the surprise element for God to kind of whack us on the head (figuratively speaking, of course) and say “HEY! Don’t forget – I love you!! And there ARE good things in this world! See???”

The love between Charlotte and Paul is a magical web that is drawing in all of their family and friends, blessing all of us. It’s a God-thing, for everyone who will let themselves be touched by it. In writing about it, I hope that it touches you in some way, whether you know the happy couple or not.

I’m glad I’ll be singing tomorrow, because for me, it’s a way to “cut lose” with some joy. Sometimes I feel so much love and joy I just can’t shut up. So once again, I am reminded of words from one of my favorite hymns:

Since Love is Lord o’er heaven and earth, how can I keep from singing?

Best wishes, Charlotte and Paul, for many joyful years to come. We love y’all!